Lynda realized there was something different about her son around the time he began crawling. In preschool, Jesse was often in trouble for fighting. At age four, he threatened to call the police and have his mom arrested for child abuse when she refused to take him to a restaurant. In kindergarten, he was suspended for throwing a shoe and a chair at his teacher. At home, he hurled a toy box through a window and kicked holes through walls.

"I was constantly screaming and sobbing," Lynda says. "I was a total wreck. I went to counseling to find out how not to hate my son." Finally, following a difficult third grade year, Lynda arranged to have Jesse tested for behavior disorders. The diagnosis? Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD).