Temper tantrums are often associated with the "terrible twos," but rarely do they begin on a child's second birthday and end on the third. Some children never have a temper tantrum, while others are still having them at age forty-five.

Parents have an opportunity when their children are young to teach them appropriate ways of coping with and expressing anger. Your response to your child's anger during these formative years may greatly influence their ability to manage theirs emotions as they continues to face the challenges of life.

Anger is a normal emotion that we experience throughout our lives. The goal is not to eliminate anger but to learn healthy ways to cope with and express this emotion.

An infant often begins expressing anger moments after entering the world. With a high-pitched scream, flaring fists, and red face, babies have no trouble letting you know they are not happy with the adjustments to this new world. Toddler temper tantrums express anger as a means of establishing individuality and independence, and sometime to manipulate parents. Preschoolers call upon their newly formed vocabulary to express their anger with outbursts such as "You're not my friend anymore" or "I hate you." Although these experiences are not enjoyable, they are a normal part of development during the child's early years.

Proper anger management during the first 5-6 years of life may greatly influence your child's future ability to handle anger in an appropriate way.